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May’s Focus: Language
“The systematic nature of language restricts the formulation of free thought. Therefore, it is imperative that language evolve at an ever accelerating pace, otherwise it will restrict the creation of new ideas. New words, then, are like the expansion of fertile land. New words and expanded vocabulary allows the planting of new ideas in this new land.
Ideas in and of themselves are a valuable crop. Ideas are what make us special in the universe.”
~Cycle Rider – http://www.churchofthequantummechanic.com
“But if thought corrupts language, language can also corrupt thought.”
~George Orwell
“Words, like Nature, half reveal and half conceal the Soul within.”
~Alfred, Lord Tennyson, “In memoriam A.H.H.,” 1850
Welcome friends. Ahh…May showers have brought such beauty and lushness to the STL. The trees and grass and plants went through a phase of ultra-green-ness. Almost NEON! It was so love-a-ley indeed. I’m extra stoked this spring because it seems my usual allergy stuff (runny nose, scratchy eyes, sneezing) has taken a back seat to better health. Can’t say for sure if it’s all the green tea I drink, or just the “Allergies, what allergies?” mindset that I’ve been rockin’ - but I’m diggin’ it. I’ve only had to pop a Benadryl once or twice this season. Buh-Bye medicine head!
May’s focus is on language. I’m obsessed with it. As my life continues down the synchronistic yellow brick road, I keep being presented with the right info at the right time. In the past two weeks since deciding to write about language - newsletters, quotes, music and conversations keep turning to words, language and further realization that it packs a powerful punch! With that…let’s take a closer look at the WORDS we CHOOSE to use to co-create our reality, shall we?
Chicken vs. Egg
When words come out of our mouths where do they go? Whether we’re in a conversation or giving a presentation to a room full of people, words travel out of our mouths and are received by others ears. However, our words filter back into our own ears as well. They travel into our brains, where new thoughts become new words, and the cycle continues.
But at what point does it look more like the words create the thoughts vs. the thoughts create the words? How many times have you said, “I hope so”, “I doubt it”, “I shouldn’t”, I couldn’t”? How bout these - “I’m too fat”, “I’m too skinny”, “I’m not educated enough”, “I’m not talented enough”, “I’m not strong enough”?
How are your words influencing your thoughts? More importantly, how do
they make you FEEL?
Inaction vs. Action
Saying things like, “I’d like a promotion. But my manager is a jerk and I’m being passed over” - keeps us stuck. It also makes us sound like a victim. Are you? If not, then play an active role in what happens in your reality by starting with the way you speak.
What if you said, “I’m getting that promotion by (name your target date) and a raise of (state the amount). I’m gathering documentation in a report for my manager. Once he/she is aware of all of the additional cash/clients/business I’m bringing to/saving the company, he/she will have no choice but to upgrade my position and salary”.
The second version puts you in a position of action. If you’re just sitting around “waiting” for a promotion, you must know by now, that’s not working. I won’t get into the semantics of on-the-job advancement, but trust that it starts with your thoughts and your language. Also, setting a target date and specific amount for any goal sends a message to your brain and out into the universe that you’re serious and you know by when you’ll see the specific desired results.
Limiting vs. Abundant
The word abundant itself signifies wealth. How can you be lacking anything if you are abundant? By using abundant language vs. limiting language you can shift from, “I don’t have enough” to “I am overflowing with abundance”. Try the following on for size:
“I’d like to go out with my friends more. But everyone is so busy. We never seem to have enough time to get together.” (Would you like some cheese with that whine?) OR…
“I am e-mailing the girls this week to set up a girl’s night. Everyone is so successful right now that we have to set a specific date so we can share our successes with each other. We deserve a fun, sassy, celebration - just for us!”
OK, so it doesn’t sound exactly how you might say it, but do you see where I’m going? If we keep complaining that we don’t have a life that looks the way we want it to, and verbalizing it OUT LOUD – then we’ll just keep getting more of the same. Why? That’s how the universal law of attraction works. Like energy attracts like energy.
When you verbalize how you FEEL, the universe has no other option than to bring back to you exactly what you tell it you want. So if you say, “I don’t have” you keep getting, “I don’t have” Do you see? You gotta name it to claim it! Have it your way. The universe wants to give it to you and then some.
Fearful vs. Loving
“The only thing to fear is fear itself”. This is a universal truth. When we say things like, “Be careful. You never know what might happen. You could get mugged!” What kind of message is that sending? Hello!
That’s like flashing a neon sign on your forehead that says, “Mug me please! Take my money and my car. I expected it.” I’m not saying that everyone that gets mugged is asking for it.
What I’m saying is there is a difference between being aware and being cautious. To me, cautious sounds defensive. So from the moment you step foot outside your home, if you are being cautious, it sounds like you are just waiting for something to happen. If you’re aware, you’re taking notice of all that is around you without placing judgment on it.
My mom and I have gotten into heated conversations regarding this topic. She thinks I am overly optimistic or naïve when traveling to new places or visiting certain parts of town. I disagree. I am very aware of my surroundings. But I have had amazing experiences and conversations with people that I might not have, if I were being overly cautious vs. being aware. Do you see the distinction? Walk with your heart forward, not wearing your fear on your sleeve and see what a difference it makes in your world.
Grateful vs. Lacking
This has become one of my favorites. I love saying thank you. Gratitude really is an attitude. Once you begin to say thanks for the things you do have in your life, you’ll automatically get more. Why? Because if you are coming from a place of gratitude, you can’t be coming from a place of lack.
If you are saying thank you for this food, thank you for these friends, thank you for this paycheck to pay for my food to have fun with my friends - you can’t be lacking. Therefore your brain shifts into abundance mode. You start to FEEL it in your heart. Then you send out that energy to the universe that you are grateful, and it naturally begins to send you more! Sound too simple? It really is.
Try a little experiment. For 2 weeks before you go to bed, write down at least 5 things you are grateful for each day. Keeping a gratitude journal shifts your focus from what you think you don’t have (lacking), to an awareness of your blessings (grateful). If you have a home, a car, a job, food to eat, a soft bed to sleep in, than you are abundantly blessed and have much to be thankful for. Look at what you do have and say thank you. Once you become truly grateful, you’ll create space for even more goodness to flow.
Affirmative vs. Mix Signals
Keep in mind that if the Universe/God/Spirit, can only bring you back exactly what you send out, then you need to be clear about sending out affirmative messages vs. mixed signals. Here’s an example: I have a client named Jenny. She came to me wanting to increase her client base in her home-based business.
Jenny said things like, “I’m working really hard on growing my business. But I just can’t seem to get more clients. It’s constantly like 1 step forward, 2 steps back”. Did you hear how many mixed signals she’s sending out? Phrases like, working/hard, can’t get more clients, constantly 1 step forward 2 steps back…she’s chasing her tail in her business and has no idea that she’s recreating the same scenario through her language. If you truly want to change your life, you have to begin with your words!
Jenny and I worked on creating a shift in her language. She created her business mantra to sound something more like: “I am passionately pursuing my purpose. This business is a thriving, financially abundant source of creativity, growth and high integrity. Clients are attracted to my vision of highest good, positive energy and the wealthy supply of benefits only I can offer them. Therefore, they consistently choose to purchase my products and services”.
Do you hear how Jenny will naturally begin to attract higher quality clients with a positive mantra like the above? How can you shift your language from mixed signals to affirmative and action oriented?
Swearing, cursing, cussing and all that @#!&
OK, let’s face it - we all do it. I’ve been known to enjoy the pleasure of dropping an F-bomb from time to time. Honestly, I probably drop a few too many! My point in discussing swearing is to take notice of the FEELING behind it. If you think about when you swear the most, what are you FEELING as you utter those four-letter verbal time bombs? If you’re anything like me, it’s usually when you feel the following; angry, frustrated, attacked, insecure, bitter, hostile, victimized, afraid, fearful, accused, betrayed, mistreated, mismanaged, overlooked, overwhelmed, tired, low energy, etc., etc.
What could you do when you feel the cold, bitter taste of an F-bomb about to roll off your tongue? How about BREATHE? Take a moment and shift your focus back to the present. We tend to use these words when we’re not in the moment, thus we’re not conscious of our language. I’m just as much of a candidate for this one as anyone! And I’m not saying from time to time you don’t want to just scream…“What the F#*@!” But when I hear myself and other people pepper their conversations with these words, I now hear them differently.
I hear the FEELING behind the words. I hear the frustration, the anger, the resentment - and it makes me think of a victim. When we feel this way it’s usually when we’re pointing the finger (sometimes the middle one) “out there” somewhere. We’re ready to place blame on someone or something or some situation that has done us wrong. Is that really what we’re made of? Aren’t we stronger, more graceful, more confident, and more loving than that? Can’t we face the traffic jam, the manic boss, the line at the grocery store, the kids screaming for our attention in a better way than throwing back verbal vomit? Let’s be aware of the words we CHOOSE. Let’s not pollute the airwaves with our frustration, anger, or negative thoughts and feelings. Let’s get a grip and SHIFT!
Dig in!
Well my friends, that wraps up this edition of the PMP Newsletter. Read books. Listen to music. Chew on some poetry. Check out magazines of a genre you’d never thought to open up. Watch quirky films. Talk to your neighbors, your kids, your community members at the grocery store. Use your words as the TOOLS they were meant to be. To cultivate the life you were meant to live. Communicate with the universe as well as other people - the WAY you want your life to BE.
Nourish your vocab skills and nosh on some tasty, delectable, scrumptious, juicy and succulent words. Let them flow off your lips and sink into your hips and have you swinging and swaying back and forth to the melodic melody of your life! Imagine this life as a cosmic drive-thru. You order sexy, sassy, fun-filled, action-packed, peaceful and loving…you’re gonna get it. You order, not enough, don’t have, can’t do, just surviving, never gonna happen, you’ll get that as well. I’m gonna have it my way - extra juicy - how bout you?
Peace and luscious living,
Kam
PS…Search the lyric sites for some of the songs in the Mixtrax this month. Beautiful, sassy, smart, funkadelic, soulful, getcha thinking kinda words. Check it out!
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