Passionate Theme of the Day: Unfinished Business

“Holding on to anger is like holding on to a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”~Buddha

“Clinging to the past is the problem. Embracing change is the answer.”~Gloria Steinem

“We must welcome the future, remembering that soon it will be the past; and we must respect the past, knowing that once it was all that was humanly possible.”~George Santayana

Did anyone see the VH1 debut show, Scott Baio is 45 and Single that aired Sunday night? As a kid growing up in the 70’s and 80’s of course I watched Happy Days and Joanie Loves Chachi and Charles in Charge. What hot-blooded American girl didn’t have a crush on Scott Baio? Jeez!

Why am I bringing up a silly little reality show? Because this one actually has heart. I was really impressed with Scott’s courage to just “let it all hang out” for America to witness. The premise of the show? Scott hired life coach, Doc Ali (a former award winning gymnast and Olympic Athlete Peak Performance consultant) to help him figure out why he’s 45 and still single.

Ali shoots straight from the hip and questions Scott on everything from fame and celebrity to losing his virginity. It was fun watching him squirm! Her assignment for this week’s episode was for Scott to go back and talk with his former girlfriends to find out what went wrong in each relationship. Her line of thinking? Scott can’t move forward until he gets crystal clear about his patterns from the past.

Which leads us to today’s topic…is there unfinished business in your past that is preventing YOU from moving forward? Are there lingering relationship issues, family dramas, ex-bosses still barking in your head, or feuds with friends you’d like to clear up?

What baggage from your past do you keep dragging around with you that is preventing you from living in the NOW, and flowing into the future?

Here’s the deal. Grab a pen. And a notebook. Write it down people. You know the drill. Who or what are you still hung up on? Once you’ve written your list, then you gotta ask yourself, “What am I willing to do about it?”

There are TONS of resources to help you shed that old skin. Depending on the depth and severity of the issue, you could try some of the following:

~Pick up the phone and call the person you have the issue with
~Write a letter. Get it ALL out. Then tear it up and flush it. Or burn it.
~Seek out a minister
~Hire a coach
~Hire a therapist
~Take a workshop (there are workshops to help overcome ANYthing)
~Vent to a trusted friend about your secret hang-up
~Begin a regular fitness routine to de-stress
~Find a support group
~Volunteer
~Become a public speaker to release some of your own inner demons
~Create a class/workshop/support group of your own
~Read a book…LOTS of them! (Some books have saved my life. Including Debbie Ford’s for Dark Side of the Light Chasers).
~Listen to enlightened individuals (Hay House Radio)

If freakin’ Scott Baio is brave enough to face his demons, aren’t you? I’ve read so many books, been coached by some genius coaches, supported by a truly amazing therapist, and attended some deep diggin’ workshops. To say there’s been some serious onion peeling is putting it mildly. And even still I have my moments where I realize there’s still an old tape playing in my mind and I’ve gotta get to the bottom of it.

So dig deep, bring the garbage out into the light and then let it go. Forgive it. Release it. Hug it and kiss it. It’s a piece of your uniquely beautiful puzzle that makes you who you are NOW. No need to harbor anymore anger, animosity, hate or fear. It’s over. It’s done. Finit-o. Buh-Bye!

What can you get clear of today that will help you move forward tomorrow?

Peace and past tense is old news,
Kammie K.