Passionate Theme of the Day: Bouncing Back

"It’s OK to dream a new dream.” ~I have no idea who said this, but I love them!

Spring is springin’…Can I get an Amen!? The weather has allowed my soul to soar and my spirit to dance a little jig. No, that’s not right. Maybe a salsa. Mmm, maybe it feels more like it’s shaking it’s thang on a crowded dance floor, getting hot and sweaty at an all night rave in Ibiza (which I’ve never experienced, but I’m always up for trying new things).

What doesn’t my spirit feel like anymore? Suffocated, stifled, pent-up, cagey and claustrophobic. Is it just the weather? Regulars know that I’ve had some trouble reaching my inner muse and been a little stuck. How will this all relate back to The Secret and getting my head outta my ass? Follow me…

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you’ve noticed all The Secret conversations taking place. On Oprah, Larry King, the internet, the blogoshpere, print and radio. You can’t escape it. It’s been a media feeding frenzy.

Last week as I chatted with fellow Law of Attraction junkie, phenomenal coach, and newest member of the blogoshpere, Dr. Drew Rozell (thanks again Drew) I mentioned that I kinda miss the old days when The Secret was still a secret! (So does Andy Wibbels). I know this info’s been out there since before I was knee high to a grasshopper, but I mean before the media started clamoring about and tearing it up to pieces like rabid wolves.

Here’s what’s been funny…just as The Secret busted loose across the planet, I seemed to forget how to “work it”. OK, I didn’t forget, I just had trouble getting back into the “flow”.  The Secret says, ask, believe, and receive. Yeah, yeah…I got it. James Ray tells us to go three for three and think, speak and act our way to success. Rev. Dr. Michael Beckwith shouts, “So what? What’s so?”

Umm…I hear you! But how the hell am I supposed to think, speak and act, when I’m totally on lock down? Essentially, I had gone into a post-holiday freeze out. This from the woman who’s spent the past year developing an online persona of “coach” and attraction-in-action-passionista? I felt like a fraud to have fallen. I felt like a sham to have learned, understood and seen such personal growth and success from working these Secret principles, and then to have suddenly had a relapse.

It’s as if the commitment, vision, focus and heart I’d put into creating a new mindset, a new career, a new love of life, (for lack of sounding totally cheesy), a new attitude – had “poof” fallen by the wayside. OK, I’m exaggerating a bit. I wasn’t in the fetal position on the bathroom floor. But I certainly wasn’t feeling like the same person who wrote this post in November.

Writing this it sounds like, WHAM…I just flipped a switch and landed on the dark side again. I was less conscious about my thoughts, thus had lowered my vibration. Some say I’m being too hard on myself. Perhaps it was just a post-holiday funk? What about the earth’s crazy energy shifts lately? What about the Inconvenient Truth? Could it all just be global warming that’s had me stifled?

So where had I gotten off track? What I see looking back is this:

(Speak) Consistency of commitment: Somewhere along the line (probably after a sugar coma from the holiday carb-fest or over exposure to family festitives) I dropped the ball. First it was the workouts. Then it was skipping a few nights of the gratitude journal. I wasn’t working in my home office as much, which is where my vision board is located, so I wasn’t seeing my vision in front of me each day.

Then my language started slipping. “I am” turned into, I’m tired. Uh-oh…that’s a sure sign that the tolerations were creeping in along with their old friends the energy vampires. I’d started tolerating a stack of junk mail on the counter. Skipped a weekend of cleaning the bathroom. Didn’t make the bed everyday. Let down my white-light bubble at the office and started partaking in (**Gasp, shock and awe**) gossip!! Say it isn’t SO!!!

Then the self-doubt started creeping in and the (aww, hell no) FEAR!! Suzanne Falter-Barnes had this to say about having been in a similar place, in her latest issue of the Joy Letter, “Seeds get planted that should not have been allowed to grow; ideas get listened to that should have been ignored. We cast about looking for anyone else but ourselves to give us direction—and yet, WE are the only ones who can give us the permission to really, truly, honestly create what we want in life.”

Which leads me to my second awareness…

(Think) Clarity of vision: I can’t remember who said it, but I love the quote that says, “It’s OK to dream a new dream”. Everything I set my intentions on creating last year in my life, I succeeded (superseded in fact). That doesn’t mean if that same vision isn’t working for me this year that I can’t tweak, sculpt and mold a new one. Where did I get hung up on the idea that I had to keep moving in the same direction? If it doesn’t feel good, change it right?

James Ray and fellow Secret teachers say, “Energy goes, where attention flows”. In my case, I haven’t been focusing my energy in anyone specific direction. Therefore, my results have been scattered and I’ve felt frazzled and a bit disoriented at times. Why disoriented?

Ah-ha number 3:

(Act) Integrity alignment: For almost two years, I had adopted a new operating system. Call it coaching principles, call it The Secret, call it Kammie’s Bad-Ass Mojo 101, I don’t really care what we call it (OK, soon I will have to name it so I can market my workshops around the world, but that’s in next year’s vision)…but I had upgraded to a higher vibing system. One of beautiful synchronicities, highly tuned intuition, clarity of vision and moments of sheer joy and beauty in the NOW. Obviously I need to step back into that flow-y alignment. That means walking my talk, consistently, every day.

HOW do we make that shift? Can you flip that switch? I think there is no magic bullet. I didn’t fall “out of it” over night. It was a gradual process. Just like creating a fitness and health vision. It requires commitment and consistency. Cuz it starts with skipping one workout and then a couple of Friday nights hitting the chicken nachos and having beers with buddies and BOOM…a few months later, I’m reeeeally stretching those size 10’s again!

The Secret is an evolution, people. For those that are ready to take quantum leaps in their lives, the transformation may begin immediately. There is a certain high that comes from tuning in and amping up. I’ve been there, and I know it’s an amazing thing. And then after the high, sometimes we plateau, sometimes we crash.

If we truly are spiritual beings having a human experience, then rising and falling is all a part of the journey. It becomes a matter of tenacity. How quickly can we bounce back? Can the lows become shorter and shorter and the super-cool-chill-mellow-joyful-peaceful periods last longer and longer? I think yes.

I am happy to report that the on-set of spring is supercharging my batteries and refueling my energy tank. I’m tackling those pesky tolerations and revamping my vision. I’m writing it down and making it happen. I share this with you so that those of you that work with these tools know that I work them too. That working as a coach does not mean that I have arrived “there”.

The evolution is ongoing and ever evolving. The Secret and the Law of Attraction are simply tools, but if we leave them laying in a stack of junk mail on the counter how can we expect beautiful things to blossom? We must pick them up (daily) and play with them, work them, be curious about them, and really get to know them.

Janet Atwood, creator of the Passion Test says, “When you are clear, what you want will show up in your life and only to the extent that you are clear.” Pretty much sums it up.

What can you (and I), do today to take one step closer to getting clearer about what we REALLY want in our lives? When the fog starts setting in, how might you remember that you already ARE (I am) everything you truly desire? We don’t need to be anything, or anyone else. All we have to do is show up…and PLAY big.

Go forth and manifest your beautiful, juicy, dynamic destiny. Let’s think, speak and act, so that we can be, do, and have our heart’s greatest desires.

Much love,
Kam