Be Unique, Kick the Critique - Self-Love is Where it’s At

Following up on a thread of thought spurred on by my good friend Pam at Make the Most of U.  She recently asked the question, “Do you care what you think?” Her post was an inquiry into placing too much weight on what other people think of you. Cuz let’s face it - the only person that really matters is YOU. So what do you think about you?

I tend to hear or read something and then float into a random stream of consciousness something like this: what do I think about me? Who do I think I am? I am bold, happy, positive, fiery, sassy, ambitious, driven, courageous and scared - but more afraid of NOT going for “it” - whatever it might be on any given day - kooky, goofy, funny, silly - will they think I’m “too” much? Will they “get me”? Will my words resonate with many or few? Do I care? Isn’t it more important to reach a few who get it rather than many that don’t?

THE coolest people who DO get it have been showing up on my virtual doorstep almost daily. Hell, some have even been showing up in my “real life” too. Life is good. Who cares what the naysayers say. Connie calls them “naysayers and boo-bears”, I call ‘em nasty. Don’t try to rain on my parade. No stealing my thunder. Go out there and create your own. If you got a case of the green meanies from looking over at what I got, then go out and create some goodness of your own. Donna calls ‘em haters. She says there are always haters along the way. She loves scripture. I wish I new the one she says about haters. It’s profound.

And so on and so on and so on it goes. Back to the topic of what do you think about you? Better yet - let’s shift into “What do you LOVE about you”? Let’s celebrate today with some self-love. You know I love Jason Mraz and he says “You gotta have it your way with yourself”…OK, we KNOW he’s talking about the other kind of self-love, but who cares!

Which way do you wanna have it? Are you choosing self-love or self-hate? Are you choosing to shine your light or hide it under a basket? Are you choosing to adore and nourish your mind, body and spirit? Or are you choosing to retreat back down “Nega-mojo Lane”? Meaning falling into negative thoughts, behaviors or actions. Maybe not negative, maybe just thoughts, behaviors or actions that are no longer inline with the new you? Or the you you aspire to be. What does that you look like? What does “you 2.0” feel like? Sound like? Dress like? Work like? Love like? Play like?

Let’s celebrate our uniqueness and kick the critique’s ass! Who said we had to look like this and talk like that? Who said we had to follow this path or marry this mate or pursue this career path? If you are still dancing to the beat of someone else’s drum, it’s time for an intervention. Get over it. Create your own soundtrack. You a little bit country? Cool. Or a little bit rock-n-roll? Bad-ass. You dig hip-hop or smooth jazz or bayou blues or rockabilly? Sweet. Just dance the dance you create. Shake yo thang in ALL its fine glory. Don’t play small. Think BIG. Don’t hide in the corner. Be BOLD. Don’t shy away from your fans. Stand up and revel in the applause. It’s your big life…drink it up!

Live BIG. Live juicy. Live passionately.

All fired up,
kam-a-licious

August 14, 2006 at 10:08 PM

Kam,
Great writing, great concept, not certain what took me so long to get here. . .I’m with
you girl. 

All starting to make sense and
take form for me now.  WOW,
what you are doing is so superior to what I have been finding on the net. . .so little wonder your response has been so positive.

Seriously, check out Noetic Science and you’ll see what I mean. . .seriously, Noetic Science!

At any rate, I get it now. . .so very proud of your creation here with such passion.

Posted by  on  08/16  at  07:44 AM

Linda Lou~

Thank you so much for stopping by and saying hello. Feel free to slip off your shoes and lounge around for awhile! Sorry you didn’t find tasty tid-bits to chew on at Noetic Science...I do subscribe to their newsletter tho and I have found it to be interesting and resourceful.

Thanks for being my friend and thanks for adopting me...I have so many lovely earth-mamas!!

xo,
kam

Posted by  on  08/16  at  09:36 AM

Kamster, as always...YOU ROCK!!!

Keep manifesting all the great stuff!! You deserve it!

Luv ya…

P

P.S. THANK YOU for the shout out—you’re the best!!

Posted by Pam  on  08/17  at  07:44 AM

Pammy my hammy,

YOU rock sweet friend. Your friendship is one of my new gifts since focusing on what I want. In essence, in raising my vibe I’ve attracted YOU - a friend, mentor, soul-sista and fellow coaching buddy.

Oh what life would be like without you to freak-out to, share my goodies and dish about the fellas with!!

Thanks for you,
kksmile

Posted by  on  08/17  at  08:34 AM

This post has me thinking about my ownnegative thinking...and where it comes from.

http://herablehands.com/2006/08/17/where-i-suck-and-gaze-at-my-navel/

Posted by Kelly  on  08/17  at  08:52 AM

Kelly~

Thanks for the note and I hear ya on pondering where our negative thoughts come from. Sometimes they just drift on in...but we can just as easily kinly ask them to leave. Or kick their butts out!

kk

Posted by  on  08/17  at  09:18 AM

Cool. I’m into size and self acceptance so this entry in your blog really hits home, it’s not just plus sizers like me that need to learn to accept themselves but everyone.... Have linked to you on my other blog site…
http://splendoursspeakeasy.blogspot.com/
where I blog about lots of different things including how I feel in a super size body and what life is all about in my part of the world....
Keep it up Kammie I’ll come back and read more that’s for sure!
Love from Splendour

Posted by Splendour  on  08/20  at  06:13 AM

Thanks Splendour...for your comment and for your link-back tot eh Speakeasy!
xo,
kam

Posted by kammie  on  08/20  at  05:11 PM

Kammie, I can’t tell you how timely my happening on this post is. The right words at the right time--kind of like yet another rubber hammer banging on the brain! You’d think I’d get the message…

I love your site! You have so much to offer. Onward!

p.s. The captcha image for this comment says ‘couldnt83’--how much of a downer is THAT? I almost put it in wrong so I could get a different one! lol!

Posted by Steve Johnson  on  10/29  at  01:13 AM

Steve~

Glad the words struck a cord with you. It was good for me to come back and read it again...funny how my own words can make an impact on myself after not reading them for a while, so thank YOU for directing me back here!

Yeah, those waskly captcha phrases are funny sometimes!

Be well and keep driving in the fast lane!
Kamsmile

Posted by Kam  on  10/29  at  08:06 AM

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